The Parenthood Thread

[BarManBean]

Squishy eggs are squishy, lol

[PeterJMC]

You do know that your "cupcake" will crush your will as she subjugates you with her guile and will, don't you? Be afraid...

 

But thanks for the pics. She's cute.

 

Thanks KRB. I'm aware of how powerless I will be... errr... am now. I did buy a plastic elephant mug and cotton candy for $23 from the circus this past Saturday for her. D'oh!!!

[LosAngelesLGT]

So LAGT, please don't forget about your surviving child. Give the extra love you would've given her sister back to her. The lingering loss felt by a parent can feel like second best love to a surving sibling, especially when their young.

 

Not even my wife would describe me as depressed. Happy, sad, mad, glad or indifferent, I don't wear my emotions on the outside and that effect my actions a lot less than you would think. If anything my daughter gets overcompensation.

[KartRacerBoy]

Not even my wife would describe me as depressed. Happy, sad, mad, glad or indifferent, I don't wear my emotions on the outside and that effect my actions a lot less than you

would think. If anything my daughter gets overcompensation.

 

 

 

Great. Make sure you keep it that way. And I hope that's true, too, given your post that started this exchange.

 

You seem a lot like me. Very few people, not even my wife, know when I'm depressed. I manage to keep it secret at the time and don't let people in. But long term they figure it out. And be careful becz while wives are good at discerning your emotions, kids are Einstein at it.

 

Take care of yourself.

Edited April 1, 2013 by KartRacerBoy

[twisty]

heres a pic of my 3 and one of the "adopted" teens.

http://imageshack.us/a/img18/2812/39617408.jpg

 

 

LGT, i feel your pain. my first born was born and died the next day, you never really get over it. its possible to still gain happiness from the ones still in your life tho, and they actually really need that from you. one of my good friends is going through the same thing right now, his twins were very premature, one survived and the other didnt. its sometimes a sore subject for him and hsi wife to deal with, but they have to.

[LosAngelesLGT]

^Nice to have somewhere/someone to vent where it can't possibly come back to you isn't it?

[05GT Guru]

The guy is feeling a bit down. That tends to happen when a person has to go through something like that. Peoples first response is generally to suggest seeking help or a getting prescription but I still like to believe many people can get though it without seeking professional help. Some can't and there is nothing wrong with that if it is needed but I think we are in an age where we tend to run to shrinks or pills without really needing them.

 

LALGT I think it is normal to feel down or unhappy when you lose a child(duh right), especially a younger child. I hope you have good friends and family to help keep you level headed or at least to talk to... if not there is always LGT.com.

[twisty]

i got really drunk, beat the hell out of a few cowboys in a bar and sat in the dark for a while. i was young. sometimes anger is a good way to clear up how you feel, it tends to make me face what im feeling. a couple weeks later i bought those guys i beat up some beers as an apology. i dont actually suggest trying to beat up people tho, it could have easily gone the other way.

[KartRacerBoy]

This thread is broken.

[LosAngelesLGT]

LOL don't be like that. Everyone here loves their kids. This is the PARENTHOOD thread not the KIDS thread. Parenthood is real life, its not always pretty. Changing diapers isn't pretty either but we deal with it. There is nothing wrong with being real as long as its not constantly morose.

[KartRacerBoy]

LOL don't be like that. Everyone here loves their kids. This is the PARENTHOOD thread not the KIDS thread. Parenthood is real life, its not always pretty. Changing diapers isn't pretty either but we deal with it. There is nothing wrong with being real as long as its not constantly morose.

 

No. I thought the thread was broken. It kept showing me the same posts even when it said there was a new post.

 

Being a judgmental SOB, I try not to be a judgmental SOB.

[LosAngelesLGT]

FINALLY got an appointment with a neurologist with experience with children and babies. Going at 2pm. Wish us luck. I really need a diagnosis of whats wrong so that I we can tailor pt/ot treatment to healing. Starting to see light at end of tunnel. Not looking for a fix, looking for a course of action rather than a shot in the dark. Edited April 18, 2013 by LosAngelesLGT

[CL21376]

Starting to get a little worried about my daughters growth rate. 21 months next week and only 18 pounds. She's been stuck at 18 lbs for almost 3 months. She has gotten a little taller, as I don't have to hunch over to hold her hand when she walks.

 

We will need to take her to a specialist at 24 months.

 

Anyone have any experience with premature babies, or growth hormones?

[BarManBean]

Starting to get a little worried about my daughters growth rate. 21 months next week and only 18 pounds. She's been stuck at 18 lbs for almost 3 months. She has gotten a little taller, as I don't have to hunch over to hold her hand when she walks.

 

We will need to take her to a specialist at 24 months.

 

Anyone have any experience with premature babies, or growth hormones?

 

Is she eating well? Is she super active? I would imagine that some kids just stay smaller through certain periods, although 18 pounds at 21 months is indeed quite small from my limited experience.

 

Will doctors not give you the time of day on something like this until past 24 months for some reason?

[05GT Guru]

Starting to get a little worried about my daughters growth rate. 21 months next week and only 18 pounds. She's been stuck at 18 lbs for almost 3 months. She has gotten a little taller, as I don't have to hunch over to hold her hand when she walks.

 

We will need to take her to a specialist at 24 months.

 

Anyone have any experience with premature babies, or growth hormones?

 

A woman I work with has been going through something similar. Her daughter is over 2 now and only weighs 21lbs, which is the same weight as my daughter who just turned a year. She had to go throw therapy to learn how to walk because she was behind in development because of her size. She has had numerous test done on the child and claims the doctors do not believe anything is wrong with the child, only that her physical development is slowed because of her small size.

[PeterJMC]

Starting to get a little worried about my daughters growth rate. 21 months next week and only 18 pounds. She's been stuck at 18 lbs for almost 3 months. She has gotten a little taller, as I don't have to hunch over to hold her hand when she walks.

 

We will need to take her to a specialist at 24 months.

 

Anyone have any experience with premature babies, or growth hormones?

 

I think you are right on to be worried. If I recall correctly, my daughters pediatricians office has a chart to track growth progress, and 18lbs for 21 months is on the very low side of it.

 

You would be good to get her seen. I probably wouldn't wait until she's two. That's only 4 months away

[laff79]

my son is 6 months and 17lbs

 

but apparently he has a "flat" head in the back. Little runt might need to wear a helmet at night like a tard. lol

 

Also is getting over a nasty bout of RSV. My daughter had none of these problems.

[05GT Guru]

my son is 6 months and 17lbs

 

but apparently he has a "flat" head in the back. Little runt might need to wear a helmet at night like a tard. lol

 

Also is getting over a nasty bout of RSV. My daughter had none of these problems.

 

I have seen that before as well. Helmets at night to get the head shaped right, usually for 6 months or so. Not a big deal, happens a lot actually.

[CL21376]

my son is 6 months and 17lbs

 

but apparently he has a "flat" head in the back. Little runt might need to wear a helmet at night like a tard. lol

 

Also is getting over a nasty bout of RSV. My daughter had none of these problems.

 

We did the helmet for about 8 weeks. 23 hours a day. Once she got adjusted to it she was fine. And getting it to fit so as to not rub was a pain.

 

Regarding the other comments...daughter eats fine and is very active. Our pediatrician is actually letting us hold off until 24 months instead of sending us at 18 months. She was small at birth, 2lbs 8oz. The hope was she would catch up, but she seems to have hit a plateau lately. She had been steadily growing until 18 months.

[LosAngelesLGT]

Starting to see light at end of tunnel.

 

Denied coverage by PPO the healthcare I pay $20,000 a year for (based on the fact that there are state programs) and now seeking appeal for coverage after denial from our broke-as-f-state. 95% sure my daughter has CP. So frustrating. Airstream up for sale (might have to quit racing and even sell the LGT off).

 

We did the helmet for about 8 weeks. 23 hours a day. Once she got adjusted to it she was fine. And getting it to fit so as to not rub was a pain.

 

Mine has a nice round pumpkin head of a melon like her dad but when is the bald spot on back going to start growing in? She looks like an old man

 

 

Regarding the other comments...daughter eats fine and is very active. Our pediatrician is actually letting us hold off until 24 months instead of sending us at 18 months.

 

I feel like this is a tremendous important growth time while the brain and everything are so elastic and full of nice fresh stem cells and that putting a potential issue off that could be addressed might be frustrating later. Thats what goes on in my head anyhow.

 

 

 

She was small at birth, 2lbs 8oz. The hope was she would catch up, but she seems to have hit a plateau lately. She had been steadily growing until 18 months.

 

Are you with a typical pediatrician or with a pediatrician with a lot of experience iwth premature/disability/genetic issue babies? Our pediatrician has an autistic kid for example and is particularly good at spotting and is sensitive to autism for instance. As soon as I can get some sort of diagnosis I will be seeking a specialist. Helps to be in Los Angeles. Lots of doctors and loads of people breeding.

[CL21376]

I feel like this is a tremendous important growth time while the brain and everything are so elastic and full of nice fresh stem cells and that putting a potential issue off that could be addressed might be frustrating later. Thats what goes on in my head anyhow.

 

 

 

Are you with a typical pediatrician or with a pediatrician with a lot of experience iwth premature/disability/genetic issue babies? Our pediatrician has an autistic kid for example and is particularly good at spotting and is sensitive to autism for instance. As soon as I can get some sort of diagnosis I will be seeking a specialist. Helps to be in Los Angeles. Lots of doctors and loads of people breeding.

 

Yeah, our pediatrician has experience with premies and special needs kids. He was recommended by one the the NICU neonatologists.

 

While this is important growth time, he's been happy with her development, and she just recently hit this plateau. He is giving her an extra 6 months than normal to try and get on the chart. I think the most likely scenario is they will want to give her growth hormones. But I'm sure there are pros and cons to that.

[el5y]

Man reading some of these stories about premies and sick kids makes me think of my son.

 

He's 25 months old, born 5 weeks premature at 5 lbs 8 oz and spent those 5 weeks in the hospital. Surgery at 5 days old to repair his esophagus (Didn't connect all the way through), was considered failure to thrive for 5 or 6 months after birth. At 5 months he weight just under 11 lbs and they found out he had intestinal malrotation so there was another surgery. After that surgery he shot up in weight to about 15.5 lbs in the following month after surgery but he will need to be followed by so many specialists its not even funny. At the 1 year check up he weighed 18 lbs and barely ate anything. Mostly he was drinking a specialized form of Pediasure because they were concerned that his body couldn't process normal Pediasure or milk. Over the last year we've weened him off of the Pediasure and his eating has improved but it still isn't great.

 

They had concerns about plagiocephaly as well with my son but as he started moving his head shape improved.

 

He had his adenoids and tonsils taken out last summer, and ear tubes put in a month ago.

 

He's a very active kid, running around playing and he talks a TON, but there's always a nagging concern that something else is going to go wrong. He's got sleep apnea as well so we're still trying to figure out whats going on with that.

[Hemingway]

Just a suggestion ... from a parent of an Aspberger's boy (autistic) ... if any of you have child development questions, do not rely on your pediatrician. You need to find and get to a Developmental Pediatrician. Hard to find, but well worth the effort. Edited April 19, 2013 by Hemingway

[el5y]

Just a suggestion ... from a parent of an Asperberger's boy (autistic) ... if any of you have child development questions, do not rely on your pediatrician. You need to find and get to a Developmental Pediatrician. Hard to find, but well worth the effort.

 

This is very true. My son has been followed by a Developmental Pediatrician since he's been born due to all his issues and it has helped immensely.

[twisty]

Man reading some of these stories about premies and sick kids makes me think of my son.

 

He's 25 months old, born 5 weeks premature at 5 lbs 8 oz and spent those 5 weeks in the hospital. Surgery at 5 days old to repair his esophagus (Didn't connect all the way through), was considered failure to thrive for 5 or 6 months after birth. At 5 months he weight just under 11 lbs and they found out he had intestinal malrotation so there was another surgery. After that surgery he shot up in weight to about 15.5 lbs in the following month after surgery but he will need to be followed by so many specialists its not even funny. At the 1 year check up he weighed 18 lbs and barely ate anything. Mostly he was drinking a specialized form of Pediasure because they were concerned that his body couldn't process normal Pediasure or milk. Over the last year we've weened him off of the Pediasure and his eating has improved but it still isn't great.

 

They had concerns about plagiocephaly as well with my son but as he started moving his head shape improved.

 

He had his adenoids and tonsils taken out last summer, and ear tubes put in a month ago.

 

He's a very active kid, running around playing and he talks a TON, but there's always a nagging concern that something else is going to go wrong. He's got sleep apnea as well so we're still trying to figure out whats going on with that.

 

my twins were 4 weeks premature, 11 lbs total weight. son was 5-8 weight as well, had cord choke him out during delivery and he came out backwards and sunny side up. was worried for a while, but over time he grew well. now hes 16, 6'1" and about 180 lbs of dumb teenager hormone power. sometimes they just need a bit of extra time to get into their skin, i think. his twin sis developed normally as well, but she is 5'4" and normal. for the most part. shes still a teen girl, and kind of twisted due to her parental (and familial) influence i think.

 

as for the CP comment, id say get her checked out sooner if you feel there may be something bigger at hand, despite what the ped doc says. he may get butthurt for you going beyond his opinion, but i think he will respect your need for a 2nd opinion.