el5y Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 My wife was 23 when she married me. I was 31. Still married 22 yrs later, but I know I wasn't ready to get married in my early 20s. I still had too much "me" stuff I wanted to do with my life, like grad school. My wife's mother was 15 when she married my wife's dad, who was 18. A judge had to give permission for them to marry and they're still married 50+ yrs later. Depends on the person and their maturity. Second on this one. It really depends on the two as a couple and as individuals. I've been with my wife since I was 16 she 15, now 31. We got "engaged" in college and officially engaged after I graduated and started working. We've had our ups and downs but mostly ups. What KRB says is true, if there's a lot of "me" stuff that each of them want to do it will be very difficult to keep things working as relationships are supposed to be 100% from each party. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twisty Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 ive been dreading this with both my girls, but im torn on the ramifications of early marriage. i married at 22, got single at 36. i have friends that have been married since right out of high school, and others that waited until they were almost 40. i can see benefit in both ways, but it boils down to what your girl wants to do. if she wants to marry him, she will do it whether you think its too early, and whether you give her the ring or not. im glad i did it all earlier in life, i watch my older brother with his 8 and 12 yr old boys and know how bad he suffers with it all sometimes, and then my 18+ yr old kids take me to dinner and i realize they are the best part of me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I'll just leave this here. Great song. [ame]www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ti5WELyYCo[/ame] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhitter Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 Had a difficult talk with my 20YO this weekend (overall had an amazing weekend with her). I told her she could not have my mother's diamond ring until she is 24-25. I think her BF was going to ask me for the ring over Christmas. I guessed as much and just think they are too young. I want mom's diamond (which is tiny, but just my gal's style) to be my gal's forever ring. Am I wrong?? I really think she is TOO young. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk I just married my high school girlfriend. We got together when she was 14 and I was 16. We did long (2 and then 4 hours between us) through college. And moved in together right after I graduated college. Lived together for 7 years and then got married. She is 27 and I am 29 now So she might know what she wants but.....why rush it? My OBXT build Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 5, 2015 Share Posted December 5, 2015 Agreed! Why rush?!? I really appreciate all the level headed opinions on here. Truly. She's a good kid. And honestly if they both graduated and had jobs and were still together, id give them the ring. Just not now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasejase Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 Maybe she's pregnant? Jk Xo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FLlegacy Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 I can't bear the thought of my baby growing up... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 6, 2015 Share Posted December 6, 2015 Maybe she's pregnant? Jk Xo F OFF!!!!! J/K. I taught her to use good condom sense, a long, long time ago. Plus she's on the pill. She'd best not be, or I'll kick her in the behind. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scruit Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 I started an online relationship with a American girl when I was in college. I lived in England at the time. I was 21 and she was 20. After weeks of talking online and on the phone I flew over to meet her. I proposed 2 weeks after we met in person. << That's her. Just celebrated 18 years together. (Bear in mind this was nearly 20 years ago when the only people online were IT geeks!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 7, 2015 Share Posted December 7, 2015 That's awesome! But, also not very normal. And less normal today. We only dated for 5 months before he proposed (21 years ago), but we'd known each other a couple of years, and we were engaged for over a year. It also 100% depends on the kid, I absolutely agree. Mine can't even do her laundry or change her sheets often, much less pick a life partner. It may well be him, but we'll see. And, they may sneak off... IDK. I will say we've agreed that he can stay in her room when visiting - I'm not that naive. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhitter Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 ^ I just hope your room isn't close to theirs. My OBXT build Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scruit Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 Consider it "turnabout is fair play" for all the boom-chikka-wa-wa she had to listen to over the years... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 8, 2015 Share Posted December 8, 2015 It's a big old house - she's far enough away. I draw the line at listening to it. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Donated Too laff79 Posted December 11, 2015 Author I Donated Too Share Posted December 11, 2015 What is it with females not learning how to cook or do laundry anymore? No wonder the divorce rate is so high. She's clearly not ready, JJ. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 This is how I view my daughter as a girl in the onset of puberty. http://wp-prod-02.distractify.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/BW97ccz.jpg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GTEASER Posted December 16, 2015 Share Posted December 16, 2015 GTEASER's 2012 Legacy GT - Sold GTEASER's 2009 XTeaser - Sold GTEASER's 1992 Legacy SS - Sold Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 ...and he's here... Nice boy, but no backbone, just like her. FML what have I created? She's her father's daughter. And I love him dearly, but holy hell. Who will stand up for either of them?? Anyway, it will be a lovely visit. Merry post Christmas. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 I hope my daughters find strong men.... for their sake. Family gatherings will be hard for them otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 I hope my daughter is strong, whoever she finds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 (edited) I know my daughters will be in ways. Just hope they don't pick weak people to be with. Edited December 28, 2015 by 05GT Guru Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 My 12 yr old niece declared my youngest sister, 22 yrs old at the time, a "doormat" when my sister's live in boyfriend said he still wanted to be with my sister but date other girls and she agreed. And my sister was actually pretty tough. She survived a revolution in the Congo as a Peace Corp worker and lived in the jungle for two years before evacuated. It's weird how people can be strong in one aspect of their lives but wusses in another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 Very true. I think about that regarding my Sister at times. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 Definitely true. My gal can be strong in many ways, but with stupid stuff, not so much. I guess it's a matter of perspective. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jj808 Posted January 2, 2016 Share Posted January 2, 2016 Oh gods, the 10 month old has gotten into the habit of taking 20-30 min naps throughout the day. Breaking this habit is gonna suck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted January 3, 2016 Share Posted January 3, 2016 You can do it! The momma blues return. She leaves tomorrow, and I won't see her until March, if she decides to come home for spring break. Sucks. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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