JJBerk Posted December 22, 2013 Share Posted December 22, 2013 So glad for you guys, Glenn! Congrats!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lgtvf52 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Hope everyone has a great Xmas! Be safe driving too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evil03mustang Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) Ah, 5 year olds.... So my 2 year old daughter just wanted a drum for Christmas. That's all she talked about, any time anybody asked her what she wanted, she said she wanted a drum. Well, knowing how kids are with their stuff at that age we got her a Minnie Mouse drum from Walgreens... not a pricey item, but it's what she wanted and all... no sense investing a heap in something she'll eventually destroy. So she's proud of her drum the moment it's unwrapped and she takes it everywhere with us on our journey from house to house Christmas day.. she's just glowing, overjoyed to bang on it with its flimsy little pink plastic drum sticks. We get to my Mom's house and she's just delighted to show off her little Minnie Mouse drum to everybody... My sister shows up with her 5 year old son..... We'll call him... Jason. Well, Jason is EXTREMELY jealous of any other kid who gets attention from his grandma. Anyway, so we got "Jason" the crayola crayon melter thing.. we did not see that it requires the purchase of a light bulb separately... so he didn't get to play with that. He got a Wii game from grandma, but she wouldn't let him play it because that's not what you do at Christmas... go and plant your ass and play video games and ignore everybody else... OK, so this 5 year old has just had enough with not getting his way and my daughter put her drum down to play with a little bear doll my mom got her... well "Jason" has just had enough of this. My daughter has toys that she can play with and he doesn't. What does he do? He puts the drum on the floor and steps on it. Then he stands on it. My idiot pothead younger brother is just sitting there staring at him and not saying anything... so Jason jumps on the drum and manages to completely destroy it, at which point I heard the noise and went to see what was up. I asked him what happened and he said "I stood on it, and it didn't break so I jumped on it." I asked him why. "Because I don't have anything I can play with so I broke her toy." Now at this point, I'm about to explode on this little shit for blatantly destroying his cousin's most treasured gift out of spite but I just kept my calm and took the drum away from him to see if it could be repaired. Well, it couldn't... anyway, so I did manage to at least get it back to the point where it sort of resembled a drum and gave it back to my daughter. What does she do with it? She jumps on it. Apparently she saw the whole thing and now I have a daughter who thinks it's ok to destroy things. My sister vowed to replace the drum with her son's Christmas money, which is fine and justifiable... what's not justifiable is how she calls him "Jeffrey" (which is my name.....) every time he does something bad. So now this kid is going to grow up equating my name with bad behavior and just innately dislike me... in addition to his violent outbursts and total lack of respect for other peoples' belongings. ..and to top it all off, my MOTHER hands the kid $10 for a drum after my sister specifically tells him he's buying his cousin a new drum with HIS Christmas money... and then my sister says she's taking him home and they're not going to great grandma's... and then my mother cons my sister into going anyway, making my sister's words to her son completely meaningless. So now we have a 5 year old who thinks it's ok to break other peoples' stuff because no matter what mom says grandma will fix it anyway and uncle jeff is an asshole. What. The. F*CK???? Edited December 27, 2013 by evil03mustang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJBerk Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Ok, that is just wrong on so many levels. So sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evil03mustang Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Family therapy is a foregone conclusion. Thinking about just acting like none of them exist. I have my own shit to worry about and I don't need their drama affecting my kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SBT Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 That's a crapload for sure...none of it helpful. Sorry. - Pro amore Dei et patriam et populum - Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evil03mustang Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) I still have some 12-year Redbreast Irish Whiskey left over from hunting camp. I think I have a plan for this weekend. X-P Ah crud, that alco-fueled naptime will have to wait till after I figure out whether I'm going to Ligonier for more parts again.... The BFAM's '05 5EAT LGT needs axles and other crap. bfam = brother from another mother... been friends for over 21 years. OK, back to parenting... so my dad had an affair and is divorcing my stepmom after 29 years.. Jeez, it just keeps gettting better and better. My son has been lying to me about his stepdad and lying to his mom about my wife.... Hmmmm... what else....  If I drink enough I'll end up knocking up my ex and just add more sauce to this WTFBBQ. OK I'm kidding. I'd never cheat on my wife... just saying... I mean, what's next???? My dad's lady friend winds up pregnant? I guess that would be OK since my dad's only son died 16 years ago... Oh, wait... I forgot to tell you guys I'm literally the milkman's kid... Edited December 27, 2013 by evil03mustang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimyJoeBob Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 http://static3.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20130820154203/theevilliouschronicles/images/8/8a/Meme-well-that-escalated-quickly.jpg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Donated Too laff79 Posted December 27, 2013 Author I Donated Too Share Posted December 27, 2013 I still have some 12-year Redbreast Irish Whiskey left over from hunting camp. I think I have a plan for this weekend. X-P Ah crud, that alco-fueled naptime will have to wait till after I figure out whether I'm going to Ligonier for more parts again.... The BFAM's '05 5EAT LGT needs axles and other crap. bfam = brother from another mother... been friends for over 21 years. OK, back to parenting... so my dad had an affair and is divorcing my stepmom after 29 years.. Jeez, it just keeps gettting better and better. My son has been lying to me about his stepdad and lying to his mom about my wife.... Hmmmm... what else....  If I drink enough I'll end up knocking up my ex and just add more sauce to this WTFBBQ. OK I'm kidding. I'd never cheat on my wife... just saying... I mean, what's next???? My dad's lady friend winds up pregnant? I guess that would be OK since my dad's only son died 16 years ago... Oh, wait... I forgot to tell you guys I'm literally the milkman's kid...  You need a good shrink, not an automotive forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) just saying... I mean, what's next????  Do not ask questions for which you do not want to know the answers. The Mrs' side of the family has a tendency to not set boundaries for children. They also fail to do things like recognize their kid has FAS and sociopathic tells. It's a lot easier on me to just not give #$*%. Kinda hard if they're intentionally breaking YOUR kid's stuff. That said, that's why we don't bring anything of value (monetarily or otherwise) anywhere near a few select children. Edited December 27, 2013 by SurlyOldManMN s/your/their Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators BarManBean Posted December 27, 2013 Moderators Share Posted December 27, 2013 They also fail to do things like recognize your kid has FAS and sociopathic tells. What does this mean? "Bullet-proof" your OEM TMIC! <<Buy your kit here>> Not currently in stock Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasejase Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 FAS... fetal alcohol syndrome? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mega Users seabass07 Posted December 27, 2013 Mega Users Share Posted December 27, 2013 Or in this case, it could be Fcking Asshole Syndrome. But seriously, those types of behavior need to be tackled as early as possible. Although some kids just don't relate consequences with their actions. Mine for example.... It makes for some interesting challenges. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 FAS... fetal alcohol syndrome? This. The kid is textbook and nobody wants to admit it. He's also incredibly destructive to all people, property and things, at all times. He thinks it's hilarious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators BarManBean Posted December 27, 2013 Moderators Share Posted December 27, 2013 This. The kid is textbook and nobody wants to admit it. He's also incredibly destructive to all people, property and things, at all times. He thinks it's hilarious. Ah, just the wording was confusing I guess--I thought you were referring to your own child and other people's inability to recognize it--i get it now. "Bullet-proof" your OEM TMIC! <<Buy your kit here>> Not currently in stock Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Guess I'm still having some internal dialogs and getting my pronouns mixed up. My bad.  This is the one that was ripping artwork (like shadowbox displays filled with trinkets, not paintings) off the walls and attempting to beat a baby over the head with various objects while cackling uncontrollably when he was at my house last. Nothing has improved. Holidays are always... interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mega Users seabass07 Posted December 27, 2013 Mega Users Share Posted December 27, 2013 There are many alternatives to FAS. My son had similar behaviors when he was younger. He's been diagnosed with autism and severe ADHD. There was no alcohol being consumed during the pregnancy. I guess the difference is that we never tolerated any kind of misbehavior. But its really hard to punish a toddler when they don't correlate the punishment with the bad behavior. He never understood why he was in trouble no matter how many times we tried to explain it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 (edited) I initially thought he was autistic. Could still be the case. I have compelling clinical reasons to think FAS over autism. Either/or doesn't change how I deal with him much. He just doesn't "get it" so it's no use trying to talk with him, and I don't have the heart to come down hard on him knowing he seriously doesn't get it. I can't even stay mad at him for long. His parents, OTOH... I have to not care or I'll be at their throat the whole day. It's not ok to let your kid assault people (including extremely old and extremely young) and wreck everything in sight because "that's just how he is and we're just glad he's alive". It's the all <insert-kids-name-here> show, all the time whenever he's anywhere, because otherwise he'll be under-supervised and literally kill something/someone/himself. Edited December 27, 2013 by SurlyOldManMN Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators BarManBean Posted December 27, 2013 Moderators Share Posted December 27, 2013 True FAS has visual indicators though, doesn't it? Eyes are usually spread far apart. I'm admittedly not all that educated on the matter tho. "Bullet-proof" your OEM TMIC! <<Buy your kit here>>Â Not currently in stock Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doobaruGT Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 Joining the club today (God willing). Doing my best to comfort my bride in her minor contractions. Some meds took the edge off so she's more comfortable for now. Just mentally prepping for the real delivery now...  Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 2 Updated parts list since original part-out here. Original Full part-out of my LGT HERE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted December 27, 2013 Share Posted December 27, 2013 True FAS has visual indicators though, doesn't it? Eyes are usually spread far apart. I'm admittedly not all that educated on the matter tho. Yes, yes it does... That's one of several "compelling clinical reasons". I understand the social implications of such a claim and do not suggest the diagnosis lightly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evil03mustang Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 You need a good shrink, not an automotive forum. I like the idea of multiple, largely unbiased third party opinions. Can't get that at some head shrinker's.  I think I've worked out a resolution for the issues with my mom... My sister, well, I'm going to let her figure out what she's doing all by herself. In the meantime, we're just going to buy my daughter a new drum. I'm not waiting for somebody to do the right thing, because that almost never happens in this family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Donated Too laff79 Posted December 28, 2013 Author I Donated Too Share Posted December 28, 2013 I initially thought he was autistic. Could still be the case. I have compelling clinical reasons to think FAS over autism. Either/or doesn't change how I deal with him much. He just doesn't "get it" so it's no use trying to talk with him, and I don't have the heart to come down hard on him knowing he seriously doesn't get it. I can't even stay mad at him for long. His parents, OTOH... I have to not care or I'll be at their throat the whole day. It's not ok to let your kid assault people (including extremely old and extremely young) and wreck everything in sight because "that's just how he is and we're just glad he's alive". It's the all <insert-kids-name-here> show, all the time whenever he's anywhere, because otherwise he'll be under-supervised and literally kill something/someone/himself.  I work with 30 of these kids in an acute inpatient setting. It can be...unnerving at times lol.  Seriously though they really don't "get it." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CL21376 Posted January 2, 2014 Share Posted January 2, 2014 Back to work today after being off since the 24th...I'm going to miss the family after spending so much time with them. Miscellaneous ramblings after a week plus with my 2 girls (2.5 years and 11 weeks): My 2 year old watches movies on an endless loop. I had never seen Cars until this week, now I've seen it about 500 times. My favorite movie that she enjoys is The Muppet Movie--the 1979 version. Classic. She sings every song. We got her 'counting cookies' for Christmas. Basically a plastic cookie jar with 10 cookies to help her learn to count. She opened it and tried to eat a cookie, gave us a WTF look, then proceeded to try and give each of the dogs a plastic cookie. They looked at us like WTF too. We made french toast and bacon for breakfast yesterday. After chowing down on 2 pieces of french toast and a couple pieces of bacon, she said "Yummy breakfast. High five!" and proceeded to high 5 me and the wifey. With no where to go, I would have lost my sanity without a couple adult outings. We saw the Book of Mormom and spent a day and night at a local resort getting massages, having dinner, hanging out and sleeping. We need to do something like this and get away for a night at least a couple times a year. At least going back to work puts me on a more normal sleep schedule while my wife is on maternity leave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evil03mustang Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 My daughter is hypnotized by old-school Charlie Brown lately. She asks for it over Dora. I'm a bit proud lol. Charlie Brown is good stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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