05GT Guru Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 In other parenthood news... My daughter and I had a blast this weekend hanging out with my friends and other kids her age over the Memorial Day weekend. We all spent the weekend at a friends beach house with a number of other couples and their kids. Since we were all in the same house and did the same activities, it was the first time I was really able to focus on seeing each of the parents personalities and how it's reflected in their kid both negative and positive. It is always interesting to see how other children are and the be able to see the parenting that has molded them. I have two good friends who also have children who play with my oldest quite often. Our parenting styles differ in many ways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JermTheElf Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I flushed some children down my toilet this morning Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterJMC Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 It is always interesting to see how other children are and the be able to see the parenting that has molded them. I have two good friends who also have children who play with my oldest quite often. Our parenting styles differ in many ways. I did feel bad for this one boy. He was about 2.5 yrs old and his parents told him on many occasions to "man up". I organized a small group of kids and one of their parents to get ice cream one evening after dinner, his parent often walked ahead of him (5-10 feet) apparently too impatient to walk as slow as him. The kid was definitely the least happiest of the bunch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I flushed some children down my toilet this morning A teenager, I hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I did feel bad for this one boy. He was about 2.5 yrs old and his parents told him on many occasions to "man up". I organized a small group of kids and one of their parents to get ice cream one evening after dinner, his parent often walked ahead of him (5-10 feet) apparently too impatient to walk as slow as him. The kid was definitely the least happiest of the bunch. I had a similar experience with a fellow employees husband and there 3-4 year old son. Can't remember exact age jsut know he was a year or so younger than my eldest. He would tell his kid to "stop being gay" or "don't be a fag" just because the kid acted like a 3-4 year old and pouted or couldn't do something correctly. Now I am guilty of using the term "that is gay" from time to time but I do not belittle my children using these lines and I do believe in tough love sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c-lo Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 bickering removed from this thread. back on topic. carry on 258k miles - Stock engine/minor suspension upgrades/original shocks/rear struts replaced at 222k/4 passenger side wheel bearings/3 clutches/1 radiator/3 turbos Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Donated Too laff79 Posted May 29, 2013 Author I Donated Too Share Posted May 29, 2013 Nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Wish one my daughters friends had tough love parents. We aren't letting one of daughter's friends come to her sleepover 10th bday party. The girl has told me "no" before when I told her to stop doing something at a previous party. Last year, she was generally just a brat and none of the other girls liked her becz she was so mouthy. I really like her parents but they are doing a lousy job with this child. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SCHM1AN Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I had a similar experience with a fellow employees husband and there 3-4 year old son. Can't remember exact age jsut know he was a year or so younger than my eldest. He would tell his kid to "stop being gay" or "don't be a fag" just because the kid acted like a 3-4 year old and pouted or couldn't do something correctly. Now I am guilty of using the term "that is gay" from time to time but I do not belittle my children using these lines and I do believe in tough love sometimes. Heard a parent (in South Bend, sorry KRB) tell his 7 or 8 year old "stop acting like a retard". Aside from the fact that that word is sensitive to people who know somebody with a disability, that comment unnerved me because that child is going to grow up with such a tainted view on reality from his redneck parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I tried to teach my kid that the sun is a star last night after he brought home a paper plate craft project. Got some feedback such as: "the sun isn't a star, it's too big" and "how many suns are in the earth?". That was before I told him all the stuff we're made of came out of stars. Me thinks there is a young mind about to be blown... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Wish one my daughters friends had tough love parents. We aren't letting one of daughter's friends come to her sleepover 10th bday party. The girl has told me "no" before when I told her to stop doing something at a previous party. Last year, she was generally just a brat and none of the other girls liked her becz she was so mouthy. I really like her parents but they are doing a lousy job with this child. I hear you, some of my friends have hinted that they believe I may have too much tough love or be too strict. Then they tell me how he can't stop his kid from screaming at him or laughing at him when he tells him no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I hear you, some of my friends have hinted that they believe I may have too much tough love or be too strict. Then they tell me how he can't stop his kid from screaming at him or laughing at him when he tells him no. Sounds like previous conversations between my wife and I. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Never hit my daughter in her 10 years, but I would only hit a kid if they did something that might endanger themselves or others. That and my daughter just isn't one of those kids that challenge authority very much. I hope she grows out of that. I certainly did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Heard a parent (in South Bend, sorry KRB) tell his 7 or 8 year old "stop acting like a retard". Aside from the fact that that word is sensitive to people who know somebody with a disability, that comment unnerved me because that child is going to grow up with such a tainted view on reality from his redneck parents. That is the reason I didn't appreciate the "stop being gay" comments. I rarely look who's toes I am stepping on and am not always PC nor do I try to be. It is because of the tainted view as you said this kid will now have... almost guaranteed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasejase Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Took our 6 month old on our first overnight trip this past holiday weekend... Three nights in a strange new place, with a 4 hour drive to and from. Packing was a royal pain in the butt, however we didn't forget anything! To top it all off... he had a virus with a 102 fever for most of the weekend. With all that in mind, it went pretty darn good! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterJMC Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I hear you, some of my friends have hinted that they believe I may have too much tough love or be too strict. Then they tell me how he can't stop his kid from screaming at him or laughing at him when he tells him no. Are you consistent with discipline? I feel as though some people confuse consistency with tough love or being too strict. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SurlyOldManMN Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Never hit my daughter in her 10 years, but I would only hit a kid if they did something that might endanger themselves or others. That and my daughter just isn't one of those kids that challenge authority very much. I hope she grows out of that. I certainly did. I swatted mine once when he was still in diapers. Indescribably acute feelings of horror, shame and failure immediately followed. That said, I have no reservations about it if it really comes down to it. I somehow doubt it ever will. Thankfully he has a well enough developed sense of empathy and morality that it's usually not difficult to get the point across with blunt, brutally honest words and reasonable consequences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterJMC Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Took our 6 month old on our first overnight trip this past holiday weekend... Three nights in a strange new place, with a 4 hour drive to and from. Packing was a royal pain in the butt, however we didn't forget anything! To top it all off... he had a virus with a 102 fever for most of the weekend. With all that in mind, it went pretty darn good! How did he handle the 4 hour drive? I think at 6 mo. old he spent most of it sleeping or feeding Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Are you consistent with discipline? I feel as though some people confuse consistency with tough love or being too strict. It is a easy thing to confuse. I would say yes and no for myself. I am quick to call my children out when they are getting out of line but I let them off easy sometimes just because they are so damn cute. That is why their mother contradicts herself, sometimes she tells me I am being to strict then it seems like 15 minutes late says to them "you got your daddy wrapped around your finger" when I let them off too easy in her eyes I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Donated Too laff79 Posted May 29, 2013 Author I Donated Too Share Posted May 29, 2013 I see both sides of the coin where I work. Kids that get hit too much and ones that don't get hit at all. Life's all about balance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasejase Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 How did he handle the 4 hour drive? I think at 6 mo. old he spent most of it sleeping or feeding That pretty much sums it up. Plus he was sick, so he zonked out. We stopped on the way down, woke him up, and fed him. On the way back (he was feeling better at this point), we started crying when we were about 35 minutes from home... So we stopped and fed him. We usually stop once for a snack/pee/gas on that trip anyways, so it didnt really change much for us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellesedil Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 I tried to teach my kid that the sun is a star last night after he brought home a paper plate craft project. Got some feedback such as: "the sun isn't a star, it's too big" and "how many suns are in the earth?". That was before I told him all the stuff we're made of came out of stars. Me thinks there is a young mind about to be blown... If there's one topic of knowledge that I hope to impart onto my daughter (and future children), I hope it's science. The wife is an English major, so things could go either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
05GT Guru Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Keep em interested in science.... English is a dying language Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KartRacerBoy Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 Heard a parent (in South Bend, sorry KRB) tell his 7 or 8 year old "stop acting like a retard". Aside from the fact that that word is sensitive to people who know somebody with a disability, that comment unnerved me because that child is going to grow up with such a tainted view on reality from his redneck parents. We used to live in Elkhart, one county east of South Bend. Much less wealthy area. I got tired of going to the movies there since so many parents were short tempered and called their kids names for just being little kids. Hated that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SCHM1AN Posted May 29, 2013 Share Posted May 29, 2013 We used to live in Elkhart, one county east of South Bend. Much less wealthy area. I got tired of going to the movies there since so many parents were short tempered and called their kids names for just being little kids. Hated that. Actually come to think of it, this incident happened in Roseland... go figure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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