Don't want to hijack from the OP, but this thread covers most of where I've been. Short answer, Cyl #2 misfire that hasn't responded to the typical troubleshooting list.
http://www.subaruoutback.org/forums/66-problems-maintenance/410874-any-romraider-tips-2006-obxt-p0302-p0304-rough-idle.html
I landed here searching for more answers and it seems that i've done most of what the OP has tried. Currently sending more logs to a tuner guy for advice, but so far all we can confirm is a lean condition at idle. It looks like an intake leak from the numbers but nothing shows up with all the smoke testing I've done...
Meanwhile the idle is just getting worse, still confined to #2 misfire, and the fuel economy has dropped 2-3 mpg since Feb of this year. But still pulls like snot at WOT.
Maybe the solution is a very tall cliff, if not for how much my wife likes the car.